19. Consider phone sex with role play

19. Consider phone sex with role play

17. Or ask a question.

You don’t need to narrate the entire time. In fact, like a regular conversation, is best when it comes to phone sex. If you’re feeling stuck on what to say, feel free to throw it back to your partner: “Where are your hands right now? What does your underwear look like?”

Howard notes that its important to answer those questions in a full sentence. “If your partner asks you a question, don’t just say, ‘Yeah,’ ‘No,’ ‘Okay.'” Make sure you engage your partner with detailed answers to keep the momentum going.

18. Speak up to switch gears.

Like regular sex, something might kill the phone sex mood, and if that happens, it’s okay to #voiceyourtruth. Take the reins if it’s going somewhere you’re not into, or say you’d like to take it slowwww if that’s the case.

“The phone is a great way to be silly or act out and talk about things that you might not feel as comfortable doing in person-or at least, not at first,” says Cathcart.

For this reason, phone sex serves as an incredible gateway to role play, because you’re able to go through the motions without going to the nines (a.k.a. dressing up).

So for a little extra fun (because, again, novelty), feel free to get creative with your voice, such as opting for a higher pitch tone for a “school girl” or a lower one for a “dominatrix.”

If you’d rather just keep phone sex real (which is perfectly A-okay), Cathcart recommends ditching the dramatics. “Theres a natural seductiveness about a womans voice, especially when youre in an intimate relationship with that person,” she explains.Continue reading